See the Good in Your Spouse: A Daily Practice for Couples in Love

See the good in your sweetheart. It’s a funner way to love.

The Romance in Everyday Moments

We fall in love for a reason. We meet someone who makes us feel alive—loved, romantic, happy, connected, and like the best version of ourselves. We choose to marry, believing that the goodness we share will only deepen over time.

But amidst life’s routines, here’s the real question:
Do we still see and feel the goodness our partner brings to our lives every day?

Love on the Bleachers - A Personal Story

Recently, we attended one of our son's baseball games. Having four active sons, the ballpark is a place we have, do and will spend a lot of time. While I was sitting there on the bleachers, Sherrie came and sat right behind me and said, “I’ll sit here so you can rest your back on my legs.”
“Perfect,” I thought.

We spent the game like that—exchanging leans, nudges, and touches. Even as we came and went for various things (like checking to see where the 5-year-old went 😉), we returned to that seating arrangement.

It changed the game for me. A simple, little thing that meant so much. Seven innings of connection—all while cheering on our high school senior and chasing the busy kindergartner. (Yes, we have the age spread—that’s another love story.)

There are healthy marriage habbits—layer upon layer of goodness—that couples in love exhibit. They are happening for you. Too often, we forget to notice. So, notice. Look up, look for, and observe each other. See the good that is happening in your relationship. It makes such a difference.

When I do? My heart is filled with love, more kindness and gratitude for her.

Choose to See the Good

Do we choose to see the good in our sweetheart? It truly is a choice we can make every single day.

Or are we focusing on their flaws and what we wish they would “do better”? Where we place our attention determines what we see. When I choose to see the beauty in my wife, I do see it—and in that moment, I feel my love grow deeper.

The way she laughs. The way she smiles. The way she does her hair.

And then I find myself thinking,
“Wow. What a beautiful woman.”

That beauty is always there—if I choose to look.

Did You See the Love Today?

Pause for a moment—right now. Close your eyes and think about your sweetheart. See them in your mind doing one of those things that make you happy inside. What is it? What was it? We’ll wait while you ponder the good in your sweetheart…

Did your sweetheart:

• Handle something stressful so you didn’t have to?

• Send you a kind text?

• Hug you when you walked in the door?

• Make you a meal?

• Wear an outfit you found they looked particulalry attractive in?

These gestures happen every day between couples in love. Do we choose to see it? The power of this exercise lies in presence. When we stop and see the good in our spouse, those warm feelings and butterflies we felt when we first fell in love, return. Just try it.

A Simple Tool That Helps Couples Stay Connected

Thankfully, there’s a tool that helps couples slow down, see the good in each other and reconnect on a deeper level.

💌 WhenYou – A Relationship App for Couples

WhenYou is a beautifully designed app for couples in committed relationships. It helps you:

• Send weekly, intentional love notes between you and your partner

• Celebrate the small things with personally crafted messages

• Stay emotionally close—even when life is busy

• See the good in your relationship

Every week, your custom love note arrives on the day you choose—reminding you both of the good in each other.

Whether you're newlyweds in Los Angeles, longtime partners in Utah, or building love across the miles in New York or London, this app keeps your relationship thriving.

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Love in the Everyday: A Moment in the Parking Lot

Last brief story…

I was pulling out of the gym parking lot early one morning. Across the street sits a hospital, and just then, a dated, golden Lincoln sedan was pulling out from its lot. As I waited for the car to pass so I could make my turn, I noticed an elderly couple sitting in the front seat—the wife (I assumed) was nestled in the middle, right next to her husband.

I smiled inside. Awesome.

“How? With their lovely silver hair! They must be 80!” I thought to myself.

That image stayed with me. Why? Because it was a quiet, beautiful reminder that love doesn’t disappear over time—it just hides in the everyday moments.

The kind word.
The quiet gesture.
The look across the room.

When we choose to see the good, we fall in love again—and again.